Now that 2023 is officially here, you’re likely seeing endless online content about new year’s resolutions and goals. While there can be tremendous value in intentionally setting goals for the future, we hope to bring some fun and levity to what can be a stressful time of self-evaluation. How? Well, with sex of course!
As the new year ramps up, it’s a great time to take a personal inventory of what sexual growth you’d like to experience in 2023. We encourage you to ask yourself these questions with joy and patience without holding yourself to any rigid standards. After all, this is meant to be a fun bucket list of sexy adventures. Keep reading for some inspiration for broadening your sexual horizons in the new year.
1. Try a New Toy
Want an excuse to find your next bedside BFF? Now is a fantastic time to look into the many different kinds of sex toys out there. Whether you’re totally new to buying and using sex toys, or are a seasoned pro looking to expand their repertoire, you’re sure to find a new toy to try. If you’re a fan of clitoral stimulation, try picking up a new vibrator or oral stimulation toy. If you’d like to try inserting a new type of toy, there are tons of hand-held and hands-free options available. In fact, some internal toys are designed to be used during sex! So go forth and explore the buzzing, gyrating, and vibrating world of sex toys in 2023.
2. Book a Sexy Photoshoot
If you’re looking for a new way to get in touch with your sensuality, try booking a sexy boudoir photoshoot. While this may sound intimidating, the experience of being professionally photographed in the outfits (or lack thereof) that make you feel your sexiest can be an incredibly powerful and empowering experience. With a simple internet search, you’re bound to find many local photographers in your area who specialize in boudoir photography. We suggest looking for a photographer who has a portfolio you like. As always, your comfort is the most important thing. So if they offer consultations, that could be a great opportunity to get to know the photographer and their style before committing to a full shoot with them.
3. Act Out a Saucy Scenario
The sky’s the limit when it comes to role play. Especially if you’re role-playing with a trusted partner, acting out a scenario can be a fantastic way to explore your sexual interests in a safe and comfortable environment. If you’re wondering where to start, you could draw inspiration from your favorite piece of erotica or a recurring sexual fantasy. Just remember to keep open communication between you and your partner. Tools like safe words and pre-sex conversations can make or break a role play session. So be sure to keep an open mind (and open ears) to you and your partner’s needs before, during, and after role-playing.
4. Get Creative With Your Senses
From sight and smell to touch and taste, there are so many sexy ways to engage your senses. One classic way to get started with sensory play is to incorporate your favorite body-friendly sweets into oral play. As long as you keep sugary foods out of the vagina or anus, you and your partner can use foods like whipped cream or chocolate to lick and explore each other's bodies. Another way to heighten the senses during sex is to experiment with different smells. Not only can lighting a new candle set the mood, but it can also create sexy aromas in the bedroom. Last but certainly not least, playing with temperature and touch is another popular form of sensory experimentation. Running an ice cube or a feather along your partner’s body can lead to spine-tingling pleasure during foreplay or sex.
5. Consider a New Location
Have you wondered what it would be like to have sex in every room of your house? From the laundry room to the shower, odds are that there’s at least one room in your home that hasn’t been used for sex...yet. Especially if you and your partner live together, getting creative with all the sexy locations in your home can help heat things up between the two of you. Oftentimes, things that are new or spontaneous make sex even more erotic. So turning your home into a sexy map of uncharted pleasure could make your 2023 that much sexier.
6. Find Your Favorite Lingerie
When was the last time you bought yourself a piece of lingerie that made you feel sexy and beautiful? If it’s been a while, try picking up a little lacy something to help you feel like your most sexy self. If you’re a lingerie connoisseur, don’t slow down! Having a selection of lingerie that makes you feel incredible can do wonders for your confidence and sex life. Remember that lingerie preferences are unique and personal. So no matter the style of lingerie you go for, always prioritize your happiness and self-confidence.
7. Send or Receive a Sexy Text
If you’ve always wanted to give sexting a try, 2023 could be your year! As long as you fully trust the partner you’re exchanging sexy messages with, sexting can really turn up the heat in a sexual relationship. While some people enjoy sharing lewd photos, the world of sexting is much broader than that. You and your partner could spend days teasing each other back and forth with all the dirty things you’ll do to each other when you meet. Whether you live together or not, sexting turns up the sexual tension between you and your partner in all the right ways.
New year, new sexual possibilities! When it comes to sexual growth and exploration, everyone’s path will look different. Remember to be kind and patient with yourself as you try new things in the bedroom. The journey is far more important than the destination, so be sure to enjoy it every step of the way. We hope you have a fun and safe time exploring your sexuality in 2023 and beyond.
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This article was written by Giselle Hernandez. She is a freelance sexual health and wellness copywriter with six years of experience writing blogs, website content, social media captions, digital ads, product descriptions, and collateral materials for clients. Check out her website to learn more about her work.